Break point

I don’t think I can keep up what I’m currently doing.

New plans:

1 – pump once a day at work. Spud is barely drinking from sippy or straw cups these days, not sure why, but rather than work to rehab that, I’m going to use it as an opportunity to gracefully decrease my output at work. Twice or three pumping sessions has become onerous and disruptive, and I need my already fragmented days to be slightly less so.

2 – Transition students to meetings every two weeks instead of weekly. I have already done this, and it is much better, although teaching eats all gained time and defragmentation that achieved. No way I could do both weekly meetings and teach though.

3 – Somehow find a way to say no such that I don’t get re-asked nine times. I don’t know if this is something I do incorrectly, endemic to my department, or something else, but I say no until I eventually say yes. Saying no does not ever seem to make something actually go away. I am overburdened with service, so stereotypically.

4 – Break my current “no work on weekends” streak. I need 2-3 more hours in the week to be afloat. Not sure where those hours will come from on weekends, but I’m not giving myself a bye on Saturday/Sunday anymore.

5 thoughts on “Break point

  1. OLD rose who no longer expects equality to happen in the lfietime of my granddaughters.... sadly

    Better to teach ‘No means no’ at workplace than fail that game with your child and teach Spud what your department knows currently….. that persistence will make you say yes.
    The department keep asking because you have taught them that works.They may even think your ‘no’ is coy and a way of showing your importance to the organization that you ‘ultimately save the department for reasons of ego and power.’ It is also conforming to a negative role model of what women do that men are way less apt to do.
    I understand you are not being coy, playing rescuer, or ‘desiring to be gender sterotype conforming as a lesser being then men’ but it is office politics and interpretations of historical behaviors….. it will take lots of deptermination and repetitions to change their behavviors but hold to your position of NO once given. Your office is capable of learning and changing. You might even on the 3rd request ask the requestor if they are indulging in gender sterotyping by repeating their requests for a 3rd time after you have said no clearly. But be careful with that as it can have nasty blow back.

    1. labmonkeyftw Post author

      Very wise, thank you.
      I have on occasion asked “who else have you asked this of?” to get a gentle sense of gender balance, and then pointed out imbalances. One particularly onerous committee I was re-re-re-requested to be on was recruiting no less than all of the new women faculty, and no men. I declined until they could show me a balanced membership – silence from them so far.

  2. OLD rose ...

    Proud of you!!! And relieved you did not take offense. I wrote and then thought and worried.
    The multiple request thing really is hard…. and more often I saw it happen to women not men.
    I am very worried about the world my granddaughters are growing up into where our top elected people … well. Nuff said. YOU DO IMPRESSS ME POSITIVELY.


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